Saturday, February 28, 2009

My BCSL Book Club Notes for February, 2009




Melody’s book: The Africa House by Christina Lamb. The African House was the culmination of a childhood dream for it’s creator, Stewart Gore-Browne, who was “A very human man, with deep flaws.” This biographical story of his life was aided by the thousands of letters he wrote to friends and relatives as well as the fact of his being a lifelong diarist. The most pivotal person in Stewart’s life was his free-spirited, witty, vivacious and shrewd, Aunt Ethel. He was a frequent visitor at her huge English estate. She was married to a much older man, they had no children, so they made Gore-Browne their heir. After serving in WW1, he was sent to Africa to map out the borders and terrain of Northern Rhodesia. Here he found the lush, beautiful area near a lake (with famously huge crocodiles) where he had his African House built. He hired men from the local Bemba tribe. He respected the natives and quickly learned their language. He championed the rights of the Africans but on a personal level sometimes beat his servants who displeased him or didn’t follow orders. Full of delicious images, Melody’s favorite – leopards striding past the window of the dining room on moonlit nights.

Donna’s book: The Rose Labyrinth by Titania Hardie. A first novel for this England-grown author. This is one of those loan-arounders. Carol read it after buying it for daughter Sharon who didn’t want it, then loaned it to Bonnie who also read and enjoyed it and now it’s Donna’s book to review. Intrigue and adventure surrounding the family ‘secret’ passed down from Elizabethan times has the characters racing through London, France and New York following clues (reminiscent of National Treasure and The Da Vinci Code) , intertwined with a heart transplant that addresses the issues of whether the heart has its own memories and feelings. Donna felt that some of the circumstances were a little too convenient. The story was a pleasure to read as a mystery with both romantic and spiritual overtones. Up for loan out, folks.

Bonnie’s material: Hildegard of Bingen: A Renaissance Person This is a paper of Bonnie’s that she wrote for her Corelight course. It is an ongoing interest of Bonnie’s for this, “12th century mystic whose visionary accomplishments integrate art and science with spirituality and continue to inspire us.” Hildegard was born in 1098, the tenth child of a noble family who tithed her to the church. She was frequently ill and her visions coincided with her illness and made her more suited to a religious role than marriage. She lived in a time just prior to the burning of witches for which she would most probably have been targeted.
Bonnie started her presentation by playing music written by Hildegard; ethereal female chant-like, and passed around a small copy of one of Hildegard’s mandalas. “This mandala represents balance and is considered a map of the cosmos. Movement is represented by winds blowing toward the humans and trees from the breath of heads of animals at the perimeter of the mandala. The animals (bear, lion, wolf, leopard, crab, lamb and stag) represent the four directions, astrology and biblical expressions.” Bonnie says “Hildegard is a mentor to me in my personal art.”

Mary’s book: Run by Ann Patchett. Her latest novel whose Bel Canto was so excellent. It is the story of the Doyle family. The Caucasian father, Bernard, former mayor of Boston; his beloved wife, Bernadette, now deceased but still holding her role in the family; the eldest son of Bernard and Bernadette’s, Sullivan; and the family’s adopted Black sons, Tip and Teddy. Complications with Tip and Teddy’s biological mom and younger sister bring the family to confront their past. Mary loves the way Ann writes and says that more than one reviewer mentions the prose technique as reminiscent of James Joyce’s short story The Dead.
“A brilliant novel, filled with truth and deep feeling. … You won’t forget this book.”

Carol’s book: A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. I made so many notes from this one since I read it while recovering from my knee operation. The New Earth teaches letting go of ego with nonattachment, nonjudgment and nonresistance and awakening with acceptance, enjoyment and enthusiasm. Eckhart leads you in a step by step progression. He includes illustrative stories like this one about the Zen Master whose neighbor’s teenage daughter names him as father of her child. The Zen Master merely says, “Is that so?” His reputation is ruined. When the baby is born, the angry grandparents hand the baby over to the Master and tell him to raise it himself, he does. After one year, the grandparents tell him that their daughter lied and has now revealed the real father’s name. The Master says only, “Is that so?” They apologize and take the baby back from the Master. Another story lesson was the brief telling of Krishnamurti’s ‘Secret’. He tells how Krishnamurti came on stage for his talk one night and asked the audience if they wanted to know his secret. They did. He then stated: “I don’t mind what happens,” then left the stage.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Social Business

I was flipping through some ninety plus channels on my wall-mounted room television on a recent evening of my recuperation at the Life Care Center and came across this Indian gentleman speaking softly. I left it on that channel for a rest from the shouting, laughter, tussling kind of programs that I'd passed by. Amazingly, the simple content of his talking started coming through to me and I was fascinated. M. Yunus was saying that entrepreneurs were coming to him for advice on setting up social businesses not to achieve personal gain but to pursue social goals. He gave an example of shoe makers who wanted to provide strong but inexpensive shoes to anyone, anywhere. He told them to set up a mission statement first. Another example was a company (I think it was Dannon) who made yogart and wanted to make the product available to the poor people of a specific country that they felt could heal many of their children's health problems. M. Yunus suggested they come up with an edible container.
Here's a quote from the end of the book's preface that gave me a hopeful feeling about this planet:
"... People are not one-dimensional entities; they are excitingly multi-dimensional. The emotions, beliefs, proiorities, and behaviour patterns can best be compared to the millions of shades we can produce from the three primary colors. Even the most famous capitalists share a wide range of interests and drives, which is why tycoons from Andrew Carnegie and the Rockefellers to Bill Gates have ultimately turned away from the game of profit to focus on higher objectives.
"The presence of our muti-dimensional personalities means that not every business should be bound to serve the single objective of profit maximization.
"And this is where the new concept of social business comes in."

Monday, February 23, 2009

I'm Baack!


Home that is. Feels like heaven. Back from hospital and rehab. Back with my Petey pup! My family are wonderful. Thanks John, Sharon and Wendy, as well as brother Glenn who called and cousin Arlene who emailed and prayed.

My friends have been un-believe-able! Visits, food, laughter, caring. Thanks Dioney, Nannie Sue & Chuck, Donna, Bonnie, Jan, Caryl, Candace, Mary & Gary, S.J., Ann, ...

Friday, February 6, 2009

Book Excitement - Again!






Yes, I have found another book to love and author to admire: Take Me With You by Brad Newsham, copyright 2000, published by Travelers' Tales (Dewey 910.4)




The sub-title is "a round-the-world journey to invite a stranger home". For me it's a can't-put-it-down travel book. The quote on the front cover of my copy is so true for me: " Newsham brings back treasures that every wanderer might envy. His journey, at heart, is into humanity."

The first night of reading I didn't get to sleep as early as I'd planned. I kept feeling I had to write down quotes or observations. Here's some of those:
  • It is best to say what is in your heart.

  • When you meet a stranger ask yourself, what miracle might our meeting produce?

  • I would like to talk with you further, but my thoughts have gone elsewhere.
The author asks many of the people he meets this question: "What's the best thing that's happened to you?" and "What's the worst." I found this thought provoking and a good way to get to know someone faster than usual.

At the beginning of each chapter, Brad has a quote. These are always apt but this one of Henry Miller's really got to me: "We move with eyes shut and ears stopped. We smash walls where doors are waiting to open to the touch; we grope for ladders, forgetting that we have wings; we pray as if God were dead and blind, as if He were in space. No wonder the angels in our midst are unrecognizable."

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Total Knee Arthroplasty












arthroplasty: "the surgical replacement of a joint with prosthesis.






Dr. Nielsen has scheduled 7AM, February 9th (John Smith's birthday) for my right knee. This will be my second surgery, the first was having my tonsils removed when I was eight. I put this off for a couple of years already, but either I get into the wheel chair for the rest of my life in order to get around or bite the bullet and have the surgery.






Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Relax and Trust


Nothing happens in this world without a reason. We are all exactly where we are supposed to be, and the pieces of the puzzle have a tendency to come together when you least expect it. paraphrased from dialogue in The Beach House by Jane Green

Monday, February 2, 2009

What my Sunday Study/Support Group is Working On


Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg


The objective of NVC is to establish a relationship based on honesty and empathy.

"Clear and accurate knowledge of how our words and actions affect others is a major resource for personal growth and the ability to communicate effectively. NVC stresses taking responsibility for one's own feelings as well as actions."


Here are the principles in synopsis:


  • All our actions are based on human needs we're trying to meet.

  • Determine how we feel in relation to the concrete actions we observe.

  • What are the needs, values, and desires that create our feelings?

  • Learning to clearly express how we feel without blaming or criticizing and receive how others feel without hearing blame or criticism.

  • Reaching beneath the surface and discovering what is alive and vital within us.

  • Take joy in the well-being of ourselves and the well-being of others.

Conflict Reminders:



  1. Slow down. Slow down again.

  2. Ground yourself in present moment feelings.

  3. Focus on empathy and connection.

  4. Ask for help ( "Would you be willing...?)

  5. Continue to empathize until everyone affirms that their feelings and needs have been understood.

  6. Only then, explore solutions.

  7. Celebrate our peacemaking.

Self:


"When critical self-concepts prevent us from seeing the beauty in ourselves, we lose connection with the divine energy that is our source."